I am an introvert. I find myself uncomfortable in groups of people, wary of new people and hate small talk. I suffer from 'resting bitch face' and am really shy and quiet until I feel comfortable with people. As a result, I appear stand-offish and unapproachable. It takes me a while to open up to people. Therefore socialising, talking to people, and worst of all, dating is something I find hard.
I've written this socialising disclaimer; something I wish I could carry around with me when I meet new people so that they can understand; I'm not a bitch, I'm just shy, awkward and find interaction with people challenging.
1. I won't engage with anyone unless I know you're interested. Make the first move and keep the conversation going and I will reciprocate. I will automatically assume I'm bothering you or am crossing boundaries if I have to interact first or start a new part of a conversation.
2. I won't reveal information about myself unless you ask a specific question and even then I'll rush through to answer it. I might jump around the topic or leave bits out because I don't want to bore you. Ask for clarification or extra details.
3. Be the first one of us to hold hands but I will be the last one to let go.
4. I'm not good with eye contact. I'm not being rude but I tend to stumble over my words even more if I'm focusing on maintaining eye contact.
5. I hate clubbing or parties but this doesn't mean I don't like going out. I love small, intimate barbecues, bowling, quizzes or playing snooker or pool.
6. I prefer to listen. I won't participate unless I'm asked a question directly or feel really comfortable/feel like I have something worthwhile to say (which isn't very often).
I've written this socialising disclaimer; something I wish I could carry around with me when I meet new people so that they can understand; I'm not a bitch, I'm just shy, awkward and find interaction with people challenging.
1. I won't engage with anyone unless I know you're interested. Make the first move and keep the conversation going and I will reciprocate. I will automatically assume I'm bothering you or am crossing boundaries if I have to interact first or start a new part of a conversation.
2. I won't reveal information about myself unless you ask a specific question and even then I'll rush through to answer it. I might jump around the topic or leave bits out because I don't want to bore you. Ask for clarification or extra details.
3. Be the first one of us to hold hands but I will be the last one to let go.
4. I'm not good with eye contact. I'm not being rude but I tend to stumble over my words even more if I'm focusing on maintaining eye contact.
5. I hate clubbing or parties but this doesn't mean I don't like going out. I love small, intimate barbecues, bowling, quizzes or playing snooker or pool.
6. I prefer to listen. I won't participate unless I'm asked a question directly or feel really comfortable/feel like I have something worthwhile to say (which isn't very often).
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