40 days ago on the 26th February, for Lent rather than give up something, I decided to adopt something instead. To pick up a new habit or to improve my current routine.
That improvement was to be a bit more social. I'd realised for the first part of the year I hadn't really seen many people and when I did it was a flying visit. I was spending far too much time at home, even though it's my favourite place, and was immersing myself a bit too much in work.
I'd mapped out the things I wanted to do over the next 40 days such as see my best friend who I hadn't seen since Christmas, visit friends, arrange a bowling night, video call a friend who lives a long way from me and spend more time outside whether that be a mooch around the shops, a trip to the beach or even just a walk around my local area.
I didn't get off to the best start... The quiz I was due to go to on the first day got cancelled, but then I got into my stride by talking to some mums when I took my friend's son to soft play when I would normally avoid them, went round to my friend's for dinner and video called a friend.
Then, everything changed. The world was put on lockdown and all social activity was suspended. I've been joking that I've been practicing social distancing my whole life so not much will change. However, I never realised how much I took for granted being able to just pop out or have the choice to see friends. When I was at home, it was because I chose to stay at home, now that choice has been removed.
But if anything, not being able to be social has kicked me into being more social. A friend who I would usually video call once a month, I'm now talking to once a week. A group chat I'm in with 2 of my friends has been more active as well as my family group chat.
I've messaged people I haven't spoken to in a while to check they're ok, and have chatted to my neighbours more than I ever have before.
I've learned there are ways to be social without having to see people in the flesh, and even if I'm having a night in alone, I can still call a friend. I've identified the people I really miss and can't wait to see again and will stop trying to talk myself out of going out. I've noticed little things such as flowers, birds and views going on walks.
At the moment there doesn't seem to be an end in sight to the lockdown, however it's given a sense of appreciation for the freedom we usually have and the people within my life.
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