Having recently turned 30, I have hopes that the next decade will bring more positive adventures than my 20s. However I've been thinking about the stage I am in my life and where I feel I should be:
I have a job I love, a house, opportunities to travel (covid aside) and a lovely relationship with my mum. However there are certain things associated with your 20s that I didn't do and am wondering if I missed out. So I'm giving myself 10 months to fit in as many of these things in as I can to see if I missed out or had a lucky escape.
1. Learn something new
The last time I learned something new was at university 10 years ago. I loved learning (bizarrely I loved writing essays) and I miss gaining new knowledge and setting learning goals.
I'm signing up for a course to learn massage and want to learn Greek. I'd like to set up my own massage business but ultimately would just like to learn. Similarly with the Greek, I'm not expecting to become fluent but I am fascinated by the language and would like to converse better when I visit Greece.
2. Dress in skimpy clothing
For the early part of my 20s, I hated my body and therefore wore clothes that covered me up. Since going to the gym I've toned up a bit but still feel shy wearing revealing clothing. I see influences wearing tight fitting clothing from brands such as oh polly or house of CB which look lovely. I'd like to show off a bit of tummy or forgoe a bra and wear a strappy top without feeling self conscious that people are looking at me.
3. Get drunk
I don't know whether to feel proud or ashamed that I've never had a hangover. Usually I'm the designated driver on nights out, I don't particularly like many alcoholic drinks and I hate feeling ill and having headaches so don't really want to self-afflict it upon myself. However I'm willing to give it a go a couple of times to see if feeling completely off my face, or at least pleasantly buzzed, is as bad as scenarios my imagination has conjured up.
4. Wear make up more
On holiday recently, a girl in my group who was 26, spent an hour a day putting her make up on. I've never been particularly knowledgeable or cared about make up thinking it accentuated my ugliness and I couldn't be bothered to put it on. Recently I bought a primer thinking it was moisturiser 🤦♀️ but I can see a difference when using it with Foundation. Maybe investing in some high quality make up and using it more may help to improve my skills.
5. Have a fling
The same girl from the make up story also had a stash of condoms in her make up bag. I'm impressed by her confidence that she may pull someone but also kind of jealous that she thought she could. I've not been one for a casual fling, and to be honest for a variety of reasons, relationships weren't highly featured in my 20s either. For about the 5th time I've caved and downloaded a dating app despite despising them. While I don't think I'll end up meeting my future husband or have a one night stand, just having an enjoyable string of enjoyable dates with the same person would be lovely.
6. Have a solid group of friends
Through some fault of my own, I feel like I really only have 1 friend but they have a family so doing stuff with them is difficult. How do you make friends as an adult?
7. Travel
I'm getting more confident, even if I don't particularly like it, to travel solo. Covid highlighted how much I like to travel and so I'd like to go on more trips either by myself or with others.
8. Find a hobby
Really, my only hobby is going to the gym. I'm interested in paddle boarding, sewing and gymnastics. Whether I'll take any of these up, let's see.
9 Sleep in till midday
I'm sure I've done this at some point but I prefer not to feel like I've wasted the day. Usually I'm up walking the dog by 8.30 so lie ins are a thing of the past
I aim to do a monthly update, so will I feel as though I've lived 10 years in 10 months or are expectations of the 20s just a load of s***?
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